Men, we do not want to talk about being afraid, ashamed, grief stricken, lonely, guilt ridden, anxious, depressed, or confused— and those are some important emotions. Because we do not want to be thought of as weak, complaining, and unsure, we keep silent about our inner struggles. We have to start opening up emotionally, expressing feel-
ings, owning our emotions, and not feeling humiliated by them.
Crying is one means of expressing one’s feelings, and it is as
legitimate, and often as necessary, as laughing.
When in fact we have nothing that needs hiding, many of
us live as if we must protect some inner secret about ourselves.
So we go ahead and shut everybody out of our delicate inner
world, and somehow, it seems to make many of us feel manly,
just by keeping our softer and more fragile emotions intact.